Thursday, October 15, 2009
Me & My White Friends
I was considering what to write about for my blog. I was really having on block on a topic that I might want to pontificate on. While in this fog of though I came to the realization that I don't have any friends who are white. This fact is by no means an intentional choice that I made. I don't have ANYTHING against any minority. I enjoy people for who they are, I honestly don't care or concern myself with such trivial things as the race, culture or otherwise of a given person. That being said I honestly don't have anybody that I am friends with that is not white. I was going through my phone and everyone is white, just like me. I was wondering why this might be. I think it has to do with where I grew up (Weymouth) there weren't many minorities. There really wasn't much of a mix of different people when I was growing up. When I was a bit older in high school there was more diversity but I explicitly remember the absence of diversity when I was young. I think this was a big factor in the current situation I find myself it. It is just kind of weird to think about. I'm fairly certain that my friends don't have any friends that are minorities. As weird as it may sound I really don't think that it is that unique. I'd be willing to wager that there are black people who don't have any friends who aren't black. I don't take offense to this concept either because I understand that sometimes it just doesn't work out like that. I wouldn't say that I would LOVE to have a black friend because that would make it sound like I care that they are black. As I said I really honestly don't care what a person's racial background is. I am far more concerned with the person's character, and the quality of it. I would however welcome a new friend, and if they happened to be black, Latino, or otherwise it wouldn't make a bit of difference. As cheesy and cliche as it may sound a person is a person and a friend is a friend. I've known instances of people being or not being friends with a certain someone based on such superficial standards and it always puzzled me. I guess I again refer to myself and think how ludicrous it is to waste time thinking/caring about these types of things. I wouldn't want people to think of me as racist because I don't have any non-white friend because that wouldn't be further from the truth. It is just weird the winding road that is known as Life. If I was born in a different area of the country I could have a completely different stable of friends.
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that is one advantage of the internet.
ReplyDeletei have met people from online poker strategy forums before and i'm often surprised by what they look like when i meet them.
it's a good way to judge by character and content rather than appearance
I completely agree, I think that a lot of it has to do with the types of people around you. We tend to become friends with people that we are similar to or can at least relate to in some way, regardless of their race. I personally have lived in a highly diverse city (Brockton) my entire life, so from an early age I had friends that were white like me, but I also had friends that were black, cape verdean, and indian. I never saw race, I just liked hanging out with certain people because of their personalities and because there were plenty of things, aside from their ethnicities, that I felt like I could relate to in some way.
ReplyDeleteIt's true and it's nothing to be ashamed of. I grew up in a primarily white, rural town which greatly restricted the types of people I was surrounded by. Almost everyone I knew had similar families and lifestyles as mine. It wasn't until I moved away..went to college, moved to California and then to NYC when I finally experienced other cultures, people and ways of life, outside of my own.
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